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If you want to experience less stress and enjoy life, this article is for you. In this article, I reveal a useful stress management technique, 10 effective ways in managing stress and a number of top stress management techniques that just work great today.

If you suffer from stress or anxiety, my hope is that this website will provide you with additional options/techniques that help you to manage your stress or anxiety to empower you to enjoy life.

I am a real person who experiences stress and anxiety. I do not claim to know everything about stress or anxiety, far from it. I talk about various options/techniques which either I have found helpful or which I believe may be helpful to people who experience stress or anxiety.

OK. Time to Relax

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You might wonder why I selected the image above. This is an image of a person walking along a wide long sandy beach that just goes on and on. There is the vast blue sea on that person’s left side with a wonderful blue sky with beautiful mountains on that person’s right hand side.

The reason is simple: That type of image with its various colors can help to manage stress and to relax. Blue is a color that is known to help manage stress. The vastness of the blue ocean and the vast sandy beach and the vast clear blue sky all help.


A Useful Stress Management Technique

If you are in a place where it is safe and secure to close your eyes, I invite you to close your eyes and to bring to your mind a similar image you have seen somewhere. This could be from real life or from a magazine or from the television or from your mind. Just bring that image to your mind for some time.

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Smile to yourself. Enjoy that image in your mind for a minute or two or for as long as you are comfortable to do it. Five minutes or ten minutes or whatever. You decide for how long, there is no rule.

When you do this, you will find that your stress goes down a bit and you relax a bit. This helps a bit to help you to manage stress.

Enjoy.

If you enjoyed this and I believe most people do, I suggest if you can and if you want to, to do it for a few minutes a few times every day if possible. If you miss any sessions, don’t worry about it. This all helps the feel good chemicals in your brain which in turn helps you.

Just before going to sleep at bedtime might be a time that might work for you.


A bit of Background

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Hi there, I am David. I am the founder and owner of this website. I created this website so that I could help people manage their stress. Like a lot of people, I also experience stress and to be honest I also experience anxiety.

Over a period of time, I have learned a lot about stress and anxiety from the common person’s viewpoint and have come across different methods, techniques and ideas on how to manage stress. Some good, some okay and some crap. So I thought I would share with you what I have learned.


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I want to talk about effective ways to manage stress. Personally I do not like a lot of theory and little or no practical stuff. I much prefer to learn about a technique quickly and put that technique into use straight away to see if it helps.

Some ideas like meditation require a regular time commitment and it may take some time to see the benefits of that. I recommend very strongly that you give meditation a decent chance.

There are a number of different meditation techniques. I have learned about and practiced a few of them, some I like and some I do not like as much and some I find quite hard to do.

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If I had learned the meditation techniques that I find hard or the ones I do not like first, and then stopped doing meditation, I would have lost out in the long run. The meditation techniques that I like are helping me a lot. For me this is a time commitment every day ranging from 3 minutes to just over an hour most days, depending on what else is on.

Some techniques will naturally fall by the wayside and others will be kept. Some techniques require a regular time element and it is not always possible to spend as much time om those techniques due to other life commitments.

For instance, meditation is a great effective way to manage stress. There are many different meditation techniques out there, and you could spend anywhere from 3 minutes daily doing meditation to hours daily.

Building a 3 minute daily meditation practice is way more achievable than a meditation daily practice of hours. However doing it every day for a short period daily is more effective than doing longer periods most days or so the meditation people tell us.

10 Effective Ways In Managing Stress

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  • Slowing down – Do not be rushing all the time
  • Keeping Calm – Techniques to help you in the heat of things
  • Positive Mind-set/Changing Your Mind – Reframing situations so that you reduce stress
  • Taking It Easy – So that you are ready for the more serious stuff
  • Unplugging – Removing yourself so that you are not available online 24/7
  • Enjoying Life/Having Fun – Enjoying fun activities is a great way to reduce stress for sure
  • Breathing/Sleeping – Letting out a loud sigh when breathing out signals to your body to relax and getting the correct amounts of high quality sleep is a major preventive activity
  • Relaxing – Practicing relaxation techniques is another great way to manage stress
  • Outside Activities – Going for a decent walk on a regular basis in a natural safe and secure environment
  • Meditation – Building a meditation practice has many long term benefits including stress relief

As you can see from the above list, a number of effective stress management techniques are free. You just need to add them to your daily routine. Easier said than done in real life.

I continue below with more ideas and approaches on top stress management techniques that just work GREAT today. I hope that you find this information useful and practical and helpful in your life.

Enjoy!


Top Stress Management Techniques That Just Work GREAT Today

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I have a keen interest in learning how to manage stress/anxiety and am fiercely interested in any practical effective stress management techniques. Over time I have picked up a number of mostly simple practical effective stress management techniques which you may also find helpful. If so, that is great. πŸ™‚

If you are looking for my Top Stress Management Techniques That Work GREAT Today (Most Are Immediately Actionable), than you are in the right place.

These stress management techniques are not in any particular order and there may be some duplication as not all of these are clearly separated from each other.

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Another thing to keep in mind is that not all of these techniques are equal. Some of the best stress management techniques in my opinion, are the ones that are extremely easy and simple to actually do, once you are aware of them and give yourself the time to do them.

Breathing slowly and deeply for a few minutes a few times every day is one such technique. Doing this by design and very much on purpose helps.

A lot of these stress management techniques may also be considered as anxiety techniques as well. A good percentage of them may be considered as good general life techniques as well. So the potential benefits are spread into a number of potential areas of your life which is also good.

Before you continue reading, I do not want you to feel overwhelmed or stressed, thinking that you have to read this in one go. You do not. I recommend that you bookmark this page. In some internet browsers, this is achieved by pressing Control and D at the same time. πŸ™‚

Overview Of My Top Stress Management Techniques That Work GREAT Today (Most Are Immediately Actionable)

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Lucky for you, I am going to share with you my Top Stress Management Techniques That Work GREAT Today (Most Are Immediately Actionable).

Stress Management Technique 1 – Use the word “prefer” instead of “must” in your silent thinking to yourself

The concept is to think in a slightly different way. Often, people say to themselves, “I must do x”. This in turn is making a demand of you that you think must be met, no matter what. This in turn is putting unnecessary pressure on yourself. By changing the words used silently in your thinking to “I prefer to do x”, it removes the demand and part of your thinking becomes “if x is not done, no big deal” and this approach can work. Using this “different switch” can help.

From personal experience, I can say that this technique does work on occasion. Why not give it a go and see if it works for you?


Stress Management Technique 2 – Ask Yourself “Will this be important in 5 years time?”

Stress Management Technique Ask Yourself Will this be important in 5 years time

Asking yourself “Will this be important in 5 years time?” in your silent thinking to yourself can be a very useful question to ask. If you remember to do this whenever you are feeling stressed or anxious, you may find that it helps you more often than not, and that is why it is such a great approach.

The technique is that whenever you are feeling stressed or anxious is to ask yourself silently the question “Will this be important in 5 years time?”

Many times when you ask yourself this great question the answer is No. If so, silently say to yourself “Oh, this is not important. Moving on” and move on.

If the answer is Yes, determine what you can do about this right now. You might need to give yourself some time, so deciding to think more about this when you have some time might be a good approach. Decide to allot some time to look at this in more detail and actually do this at the assigned date and time is a great idea.

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From personal experience, I can say that this technique does work on occasion. Why not give it a go and see if it works for you?

You know now that when you get into a stressful or anxious situation, that asking yourself silently the “Will this be important in 5 years time?” question may reduce the stress or the anxiety. If so, great.

This is a very simple and effective technique. You might like me, have been aware of this concept however just didn’t put it into use in this way. Once you are aware of it very deliberately and very intentionally, you may find that you start to use this concept very much on purpose, and in the process, it may also help your stress levels or anxiety levels go down.

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An interesting variation of this, is that instead of using a 5 year period is to use a 1 year period. So the variation is that instead of asking yourself silently “Will this be important in 5 years time?”, you ask yourself silently “Will this be important in 1 years time?”

Personally I do think that the longer time period is better. I find it way quicker to dismiss something as not important if I silently say to myself “Will this be important in 5 years time?”. When I change this to a year away, I find myself taking longer to dismiss it as not important.

My take is simple, whatever time period works for you. If you do not have a preference, I think you should like me, opt for 5 years.


Stress Management Technique 3 – Interrupt A Thought Process

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Technique 3 is to interrupt an internal thought process when it goes astray. The more technical term is to interrupt the CBT Cycle. In a nutshell, the technique is to understand the CBT Cycle and how it works.

CBT is short for Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. It shows that our thoughts influence our feelings which in turn affects our behaviour, and the cycle continues.

Knowing this, to interrupt the CBT cycle with positive affirmations helps to reduce the stress or anxious levels.

For instance a “bad” CBT cycle might look like this: The thought is “I’m unwell” which could lead to an “anxious” feeling which could lead to a “go into myself” behaviour and so the CBT cycle continues in a downward direction.

A “good” cycle might look like this: The thought is “I’m doing OK” which could lead to an “upbeat” feeling which could lead to “making choices” behaviour and so the CBT cycle continues in an upward direction which is good for reducing stress or anxiety. This is good for life in general.

One good practice when you have some time is to repeat silently to yourself positive affirmations that are applicable in your case and that can help create good feelings. I find repeating silently to myself one or two or three positive affirmations is helpful. Examples include “I’m doing OK”, “I’m doing fine” and “I have things to work on”.

Repeating them silently to yourself in a safe secure place where you do not need to be 100% focused on another activity and you do not need to be 100% alert is a good idea. Therefore, do not do this when driving a car or operating machinery or anything similar. A great place to do this is your bedroom.

It is important to realise that “not great thoughts” can come and go. This is normal. The trick is to acknowledge them and go back to what you were doing before hand. I know that this is easier said than done.

It is also important to realise that if emotions are involved here that it is extremely important for them to be processed properly. Ignoring “bad” emotions is not recommended. It may be ok to ignore “bad” emotions in the short term, however do not allow them to “stay” without “processing” them properly. Jump to related side note.

Also do not personalise the emotion. For example, do not think silently “I am anxious” however to think silently “ah, there is that anxious feeling”. And then to focus your attention back to what you were doing. This concept is explored in meditation which is discussed below.

From personal experience, I can say that this technique does work on occasion. Why not give it a go and see if it works for you?

If you find that repeating silently certain affirmations makes you feel worst instead of better, that may be a hint for you to revise that affirmation or at least to drop it for the moment. You need to be kind to yourself.

Make sure that the affirmation does not have a “must” in it, but rather a “prefer”. For example, saying “I must be well” to yourself when you and your body know that this is not realistic puts more pressure on yourself. Instead saying “I prefer to be well” is a better affirmation in this case, in my opinion.

You might have noticed that this point, using the word “prefer” instead of “must” was already discussed above.

Another option is to use the word “choose”. For example “I choose to be well”. There is no hard and fast rule. I have noticed that “choose” is used more often in the Insight Timer App meditation sessions. Well the ones I have listened to so far, there are now over 24,000 of them and they usually add a few every day now.

In discussing this technique I have mentioned a few other techniques. You will recall that at the top of this techniques section, I mentioned that there may be some duplication as not all of these are clearly separated from each other. Some of the “sub components” so to speak are included in “other components” and some of the “sub components” are separate “components” in their own right.

Therefore over time, you may find yourself taking bits and pieces from different techniques and making your revised technique work for you. I encourage you to think in an open way like this and hope that such open ways of thinking work for you.


Stress Management Technique 4 – do regular daily brisk walks (if possible)

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Technique 4 is to do regular daily brisk walks (if possible), ideally in the countryside. The actual physical movement of walking is one of the things that is good for you here. And if the walk happens in the countryside where there is a lot of nature and a lot of green that is also good for you.

The technique is that walking briskly on a daily basis for between 20 minutes and 60 minutes, ideally in the countryside has a number of health related benefits, including reducing stress and uplifting mood.

The effect is cumulative, although regular daily walking is encouraged when possible. Of course, if the weather is not great, it may be smarter not to go for the walk. In this case, read a book that you enjoy reading. And of course, if you are not fit enough to walk, it would be smarter not to go for the walk. Maybe, in that case, read a book.

From personal experience, I can say that this technique does work. Why not give it a go and see if it works for you?

I read somewhere that for each ten minutes of brisk walking you do, that can help to keep you in an “upbeat mood” for two hours. So a 40 minute brisk walk would help to keep your mood up for eight hours.

Going for daily brisk walks is a good idea as long as the conditions are suitable. Conditions include being up for it, both physically and mentally as well as the environmental conditions (for example, physical location, weather, suitable clothing, etc).


Stress Management Technique 5 – Remind Your Body To Relax

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Technique 5 is to tell your body to relax. This uses a very simple process so you should be able to do this. The trick then is to remember to do it a few times every day. By so doing, you help yourself to ‘recharge’ which is always good.

The technique is to use a very simple technique, and is to let out a loud sigh. When you are alone, if you let out a loud sigh when breathing out that signals to your body to relax. You breathe in through your nose, and you breathe out through your mouth. When breathing out, let out a loud sigh. If you do this, 3 to 5 times, hopefully you will feel your body starting to relax. Doing this for 3 to 5 times, will take you about a minute, depending on your pace. You do this at your own pace.

Do the breathing in and out at a pace that is comfortable for you. Doing this for 3 – 5 minutes can be effective and if you can do this at least once very day, you will see for yourself if this is one that works for you.

There are two main ways to do this. You can simply count your breaths up to a number determined by you at the start, no more than 3 to 5 times. Or use a “timer countdown” function on a smartphone, timed for a minute or so.

Be careful if you do this for too long, you will feel sleepy. A lot of meditation sessions will do this for a minute or so at the start of the session and then revert the breathing process back to its normal pattern before continuing on with the meditation session.

If you are in company, you can do this without letting out the loud sigh. In which case, you let out a silent sigh while imagining letting out a loud sigh. Just be careful, that you do not let out a loud sigh, otherwise people will wonder what is going on. πŸ™‚

And of course, you do this technique when it is safe to do so.

From personal experience, I can say that this technique does work. Why not give it a go and see if it works for you?


Stress Management Technique 6 – Meditate Regularly

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Technique 6 is using meditation for stress management, which is a great idea. Now meditation is a huge subject. There are many different meditation techniques. My experience of meditation is that it is a process used to help calm the mind, and in so doing, gives you that additional space and time to help.

During the meditation process, the person doing the meditation is trying to keep their attention on a main focal point. For example, this could be focusing on their breathing. By focusing their attention on their main focal point, their attention is not drawn to other things. This of course, is easier said than done. When the individual realizes that their attention has drifted away from their main focal point, they are to return to their main focal point. It is important that before going back to the main focal point that the person doing the meditation does not “beat themselves up” for letting their thoughts drift. It is normal and kind of expected that the person doing the meditation will drift to something else apart from the main focal point. When they do, the person simply acknowledges that they drifted and return back to the main focal point in a calm and relaxed manner.

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Meditation may be used to reduce stress which is why we are interested in it here. There are many different meditation techniques. Here, I will focus in on one extremely simple approach which you will be able to do yourself, seconds after reading this.

  • Sit comfortably
  • Breathe naturally
  • Follow the sensation associated with breathing in and breathing out
  • Let tension out with every out breathe
  • When your notice your mind wandering and it will, return to your breath

The main idea is to do this for a set period of time, starting with two minutes and performing a few times every day. You can use a timer countdown device to do this. Most smartphones come with a timer countdown function.

You can increase the amount of time from two minutes over time to longer periods. Increasing it by one minute per week is one approach, until you have got it up to your target amount of time.

A good way to learn meditation is to use the Insight Timer App.

From personal experience, I can say that this technique does work. Why not give it a go and see if it works for you?


Stress Management Technique 7 – Consume Enough Water

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Technique 7 is so simple but so important that it can get overlooked by accident, especially on days when people are really busy.

The technique is simple: Make sure you consume enough water. This is based on the fact that drinking enough water every day is important to your health and your overall well-being. If you do not drink enough water and get dehydrated, it can cause problems.

It is important to understand the following process:

Stress is known to cause dehydration. Dehydration is known to cause stress. Stress is known to cause dehydration.

The undesirable endless horrible loop has started. There is one way out of this endless loop and that is simply to consume more water on a daily basis.

Also, dehydration can make you heart start racing or make you feel lightheaded or dizzy. These physical events are also quite common in panic attacks or in anxiety attacks, so you might feel anxious or panicky because you are dehydrated. Consuming more water on a daily basis, helps to keep dehydration away and hopefully prevent these “false anxious feelings” from arising in the first place.

No way do you want a “panic attack” because you are “feeling a bit dizzy” because you are dehydrated which caused your mind to misread the situation “oh oh, looks like the start of a panic attack” and turn into a “full blown panic attack” which is very real and horrible should you experience it.

Recommended daily intakes of water depends on a number of different variables. Location and current weather being two of those variables. You might have to talk to a medical professional in your area to determine the amount of water you should consume each day based on the variables that affect you. And based on the changing variables that may affect you over the different seasons when there are usually different weather patterns.

From personal experience, I can say that this technique makes sense. I am happy enough to drink more water if it helps. Drinking some usually involves a “change of scenery” as I usually have to go to the kitchen to get the water which is also good. Why not give it a go and see if it works for you?


Stress Management Technique 8 – Go To The Seaside

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Technique 8 is to go to the seaside. This is a fairly simple technique which if you are near to the seaside is pretty easy to do. πŸ™‚

If you are not, it does require some effort. πŸ™‚

I remember growing up, and every so often, you hear that someone’s doctor recommended that they go to the seaside and I would wonder why. It turns out that being by the seaside may help to reduce stress levels. This is for a number of reasons.

People say that “sea air is good for you”. Well, any time I have been to the seaside I would have to agree with this. I have noticed that it also tends to be “fresher”. Then there is also the sound of the waves against the beach. This is usually relaxing, and is the same sound again and again. This helps to reduce stress.

I also find that if I go for a walk along the beach, that I would end up walking for longer than I had initially planned. Being at the seaside may be less stressful because there is hopefully this ‘blue’ natural stuff; the color of the sea and the color of the sky. The sea is a natural environment, there is a great feeling of open space, and there is that fresh air. The sound of the waves against the beach is also a sound that helps to reduce stress.

People also usually associate happy relaxing good times with being at the seaside which is all good.

I also suggest taking some photographs of what you see at the seaside taking in all this wonder, so that you can relive your visit to the seaside by looking at your photographs.

I would suggest that if it is practicable for you, to put your smart phone or your mobile phone or your cell phone off, or at least put it in ‘silent mode’. You are at the seaside for you, and you need your ‘alone time’ in order to recharge yourself. If you end up answering your phone, you are not going to get this time to recharge yourself.

From personal experience, I can say that this technique does work. Why not give it a go and see if it works for you?


Stress Management Technique 9 – Do Regular “Brain-Dumps”

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Technique 9 is to do regular “brain-dumps” and have a process that processes what comes up in the “brain-dump”.

This is an interesting technique which a medical professional suggested to me a while back when I mentioned that I could not sleep due to stress, she suggested that rather than taking a sleeping pill to do what she called a “brain-dump”.

The way that she suggested is that if I can not sleep, grab some paper and a pen, and write down all the things going through my mind in no order and to just get it down to paper. The very act of doing this releases some stress. A few times since then I have found it difficult to sleep, I simply practiced doing meditation in bed and was able to nod off. I just did not feel like getting up and writing down the thoughts in my head.

My understanding is that the very process of writing those thoughts down “helps to slow down the brain” and it just happens that the meditation in bed process does the same or similar thing.

 


Stress Management Technique 10 – Use “So What?” Concept

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Technique 10 is another one that is simple in concept. It is to silently say to yourself “So What?”. This is a very simple idea, which is easy to implement, if you remember to use it when it may be helpful.

You may be aware that if you think of something “not great”, that the next thing that happens is that you get into a bit of an endless loop. What you want to do before getting into the endless loop, is to do something to prevent going into the endless loop.

What you do is simple, you silently say to yourself as strongly as you can, “So What?”
You can replace the “So What?” with other stronger phrases. It appears that using “bad language” may be more effective. For example, “So F* What?” can be more effective that using “So What?” because it is more emotional.

This dispels the potential situation and you move on as before. You do not get into the endless loop and this is good.

Worded in a different way: The technique here is that when you think of something “not great”, and you know that dwelling on it is “bad” for you, immediately after the thought appears, you say to yourself, silently of course, “So What?” as strongly as you can.

Two other similar ideas:
1 – Instead of thinking that a bad thing can happen, think that a good thing can happen.
2 – Instead of “expecting the worst”, “expect the best” until it is confirmed otherwise.

The human mind is very good at conjuring up things, so guide it to conjure up “expecting the best” images rather than something else. Understand that a lot of the worries that people have do not actually happen, and that means that a lot of time has been “wasted” because those people could have been doing something else more enjoyable with their time.

Get your mind to work with you, instead of against you.

If I say “think of a time that you were happy and at the seaside”, I assume that you will conjure up happy memories of being happy and being at the seaside. Ah, Happy Times. πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

Hopefully I reminded you of some good times and that is bringing a smile to your face. πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

Before going to the next point, I would suggest that you stay here for a while, and recall those happy great memories in more detail and you do exactly this, now.


Stress Management Technique 11 – Give Yourself A Treat

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Technique 11 is to remember to give yourself treats on a regular basis. This technique is another good one. As well as potentially helping with stress levels or anxiety levels, it can help greatly to give us some ‘recharging time’ which is always good.

The concept is simple – it is to give yourself some sort of treat.

Maybe go to a coffee shop, and have the coffee there, with the intention of drinking the coffee very slowly and staying there for 40 minutes to 60 minutes, with no distractions (No mobile phone, no reading the paper, no laptop, no computer, no book). Just be “lazy” for that 40 minutes to 60 minutes. Enjoy that time.

Sometimes, that is the most productive use of our time. Give the brain and mind a chance to catch up. Oh, if any “not great thoughts” come up, re-divert them with a “hey, brain, I am relaxing here. Go f* off”.

You may need the “down time” and it is way better to be in control of that “down time agenda” than not.

Everyone is different. So rather than going to a coffee shop, you might go somewhere for afternoon tea. Enjoying afternoon tea at a hotel is a different experience that enjoying tea with a treat at a coffee house. They are different experiences and prices usually reflect this.

It is important however to give yourself some treat on a regular basis, ideally at least once every day. Going out to enjoy the latest blockbuster at the local cinema is also an idea. You may find that you find some variety with your treats so that you enjoy them and it does not become dull.

Giving yourself a bigger treat on occasions is also an idea.


Stress Management Technique 12 – Read Novels

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Technique 12 is to read novels. This is an incredibly simple stress management technique. It is to read novels that you totally enjoy and totally engage in. The important thing is that you totally engage yourself in the story.

Once you start turning pages and read for a while (over 6 minutes according to a UK study), your stress levels start to go down.

I recommend that you read novels that you totally enjoy and totally engage in every day for at least 10 minutes. I have resumed doing this myself recently and read in bed most nights for at least 10 minutes. I get so engaged with the story that it is usually nearer 30 minutes when I call it a day.

My gut feeling is that my stress levels are going down, so all good.

Why not give it a go, and see if this one works for you? You surely have a novel in the house that you could start reading or rereading later today.

Note that whatever you read for stress relief, is something that you enjoy reading and something that you totally engage in. Reading a technical work related document might not fit the bill in this instance. πŸ™‚

Reading a novel from a gene that you do not enjoy may not be a good idea. For instance, I myself will not read horror novels, well because I do not enjoy them. Horror novels freak me out and do my stress levels no good at all. So I simply do not read that gene of novels. Whereas I like a good thriller that I truly totally enjoy and totally engage in. I suggest that you read novels from different genes that you do enjoy.

From personal experience, I can say that reading novels that I enjoy helps. Why not give it a go and see if it helps for you?


Stress Management Technique 13 – Use This In Your Thinking

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Technique 13 is using the “I do my thing and you do your thing” concept in your silent thinking. This is based on the famous quote by Fritz Perls:

I do my thing and you do your thing.
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations,
And you are not in this world to live up to mine.

I find that saying this quote silently to myself a few times that it helps.

Yes, personally I think that it is okay to be concerned about another person. In this case, doing meditation, especially loving-kindness meditation can help you get you some space. You need the space yourself to help you to see the situation clearer for yourself.

Then determine if it is a good idea to help and if it is, and you can, and the other person is okay with it, then proceed. Just be careful that you do not cross a line. Once you get involved, you could be “hooked” in emotionally for a lot more that you initially expected, so you might need to put some sort of condition on this to help you remain “unhooked” or to very clearly state some condition, “Sure, I can give you 10 minutes now, but then I have to go” and 10 to 15 minutes later, go.

Worrying about things that are of no real concern to me is not a good use of my time and my energies. For one thing, it can add to my stress levels. For another, it can make me more anxious. So from my point of view and from my health view, I am better off to focus on “doing my thing and living up to my expectations”. If any additional thoughts come up that are not related to “doing my thing and living up to my expectations”, I can re-divert them with a “hey, brain, thanks for that. As it is not related to doing my thing and living up to my expectations, go f* off”.

From personal experience, I can say that saying this quote silently (I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, And you are not in this world to live up to mine) to myself a few times helps. Why not give it a go and see if it helps for you?

It may be noted that the Loving Kindness Meditation phrases involved in acceptance are somewhat connected to this strategy. Examples of these phrases are:
May I accept myself as I am. May I accept others as they are.

You might have noticed that using Meditation for stress relief was already discussed above.


Stress Management Technique 14 – Use The Insight Timer App

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Assuming that you have a compatible device, technique 14 is to use the Insight Timer App. This is a brilliant meditation app that is very popular.

I have personally been using this app myself since late 2016 and highly recommend it. It is a top rated free meditation app on both the Android and iOS stores. I rate it as 5 stars out of 5.

I do suggest that you use their free version to see if this is for you. If it is, know that you can stay on their free version for ever or you can upgrade to their premium paid version. I myself used their free version for quite some time before opting for the premium version. Both versions are excellent.

I get nothing for pointing you to them as they do not have an affiliate program. I know what it is like to experience stress/anxiety and if you experience it too and if this helps you in some way, I would be thrilled and happy for you if you tried Insight Timer and find that it helps you. Please let me know in the comments below (so I get a Feel Good Factor) if it helped you. This may also help other readers of this blog. Thank you.

Even if you do not experience stress/anxiety, you may find the Insight Timer App to be helpful in your life. They have thousands of different meditations of varying lengths by many different meditation teachers. They also have a number of musical tracks as well.

This is a great handy app for empowering you to do meditation related tasks at anytime. The app can operate in offline mode for some of its functions. They have over 10,000 different guided meditation sessions covering a large number of topics within the meditation arena, including stress and anxiety.

The App is an application that runs on compatible smartphones on Android and on iOS that empower people to learn about meditation, do meditation, document their meditation progress, perform various countdown functions, do guided meditation sessions online and do unguided meditation sessions along with other functionally within the App itself.

 

different emotions

I have discovered that it is important to let emotions run their course and let them naturally subside rather than “noticing them and trying to ignore them/distract myself from them”.

I am finding that the “Positivity” meditation recording by Andrew Johnson, one of the many online meditation recordings available in the Insight Timer App is helping me.

I just wish I found this recording earlier!

Other online meditation recordings in the Insight Timer App touched on the same concepts in different ways however this one by Andrew Johnson is excellent and covers other related concepts very well. Please note that just because this one by Andrew Johnson works for me at this point in time for me, it may not work for you.

 
From personal experience, I can say that the Insight Timer App is helping me with my stress and anxiety. Why not give it a go and see if it works for you?


Stress Management Technique 15 – Drink Green Tea Or Not

Glass of green tea

This is one that should be relatively easy for you to try out, technique 15 is to drink green tea or not.

The reason for the “or not” addon at the end of the sentence is simple however very important. Some information out there suggests very strongly that drinking green tea may interfere with the effectiveness of some medication.

To my great surprise I found out that two of the medicines I am taking, a beta-blocker and aspirin may not work as effectively as they should if I also drink green tea. After finding this out, I no longer drink green tea. It is just as well that I had not been drinking green tea for too long and was not drinking too much of it. Better safe than sorry. This also explains why during my last visit to my heart consultant that she said that my blood pressure was high. This surprised her and me. I couldn’t understand why. Now I have a suspect which I am pretty sure is the real reason which is great to know.

However and this is very important, if you are taking medications, please be sure to check with your health professional to be sure that drinking green tea is safe for you. Be sure that your health professional knows about all medications you are taking eg beta-blocker nadolol, including the over the counter ones eg aspirin.


Wrap-up

lets talk managing stress: the wrap-up

As you can see there are quite a number of stress management techniques out there. My list of my top Stress Management Techniques just outlines a small subset of different stress management techniques out of the many different techniques out there.

I hope that a number of my top Stress Management Techniques can help you in your management of stress in your life. As you can see I have some experience on stress management directly from my personal experiences and indirectly from obtaining practical knowledge from different sources over the course of my life.

I have come across a lot of information out there that has not been put together well and would be difficult to apply in what I call the real world.

There is no way that I want to read a “dry book” full of academic theory that contains very little practical knowledge that can be applied to my real world straight away.

I prefer to read a few paragraphs about some technique that provides all the required information and practical knowledge to apply to the real world straight away.

I don’t mind if that acts as an introduction to that technique which can be followed up with more detailed practical knowledge that can be applied to my real world almost straight away.

I hope that one or more of the stress management techniques that I outlined above help. I also have more related materials below. I hope that you find the information on this website useful and practical in helping you in some way with your life.

All the best.


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As I have already mentioned, meditation is a good stress management technique. A good way to learn meditation if you have a smartphone is to use the Insight Timer App. I have been doing meditation using the Insight Timer App for some time now. The app itself is updated on a regular basis. Additional meditations are added by different meditation teachers on a regular basis.

Here’s The Next Step…

lets talk managing stress: any questions

Now I want to turn it over to you:

What do you think of these stress management techniques?

What stress management techniques would you suggest?

Either way, let me know by leaving a comment below right now.


Again, I’m David. I wish you all the best with your managing stress activities. I thank you for visiting my website today. As I update my website with new information that I know you will find interesting on a regular basis, make sure that you visit my website regularly. Be sure to bookmark this site. πŸ™‚

Feel free to contact me if you ever need anything. You can always drop me a message below. πŸ™‚

Of course, if you have a way of managing stress that you find effective, or that you want to learn more about, you can always drop me a message below. I might write a future article about that technique. πŸ™‚

Peace,
David

Founder and Owner of LetsTalkManagingStress.com
web: LetsTalkManagingStress.com


Let me know if you have any applicable thoughts on this great subject by leaving your applicable thoughts below. Many thanks. πŸ™‚

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128 thoughts on “Welcome To Let’s Talk Managing Stress”

  1. Stess managment has always intrigued me.  I consider myself “high-strung”, and frequently get knots in my upper shoulder muscles.  My dad was high-strung as well.  I’ve tried many of these techniques already and they absolutely do help.  I’d never heard of the Insight Timer meditation app, I have already downloaded it and will be trying it soon.

    Keep up the good work and thank you for the information!

    • Hi Robin,

      Thank you for your comments. I am thrilled and delighted that you have downloaded the Insight Timer App. They have a brilliant “Learn How To Meditate In Seven Days” course which is in my opinion well worth doing.

      When you enter the Insight Timer App on a smartphone, click on the “meditation” tab (on my smartphone this is on the bottom), and you see a banner for the course (you may have to page down a bit), just click on it and away you go.

      Each lesson/session for that 7 day course, lasts between 10 and 15 minutes, and is well worth your time to help learn and actually do meditation.

      I hope that you enjoy using the Insight Timer App as much as I do. πŸ™‚

      Peace,
      David

  2. I always thought I was a master at dealing with stress back in my younger days, I loved the challenges that my career would get me jammed in. But I have to confess, as my children enter in their teens, and knowing that if I don’t bite my tongue on some issue’s that they will just rebel is taking its toll:)

    I really enjoyed your tips for dealing with stress, and your no 1 recommendation looks really genuine and helpful, I believe it is well worth the while before I end up in a hole. Many Thanks

    • Hi Ropata,

      My number 1 recommendation is really worth while considering. You can read my review of this course here.

      Learning Meditation on the Insight Timer App is also another great idea.

      Of course, I think that each of the techniques I mention in my post should be considered. πŸ™‚

      Peace,
      David

  3. one of my very favorite stress management techniques is to go walking or hiking in nature. The physical action of walking as well as the exposure to nature can both serve to lower stress levels. I actually completed independent research when I was an undergrad that showed students are a lot less stressed and anxious when they spend a class outdoors instead of indoors! Really fascinating stuff. We all spend too much time inside!

    • Hi Mariah,

      That is a brilliant stress management technique. I have mentioned walking in nature as a stress management technique a few times on this website. πŸ™‚

      That sounds like interesting research you did that showed that students are less stressed and less anxious when they spend a class outside, rather than inside.

      Peace,
      David

  4. I found this to be very interesting! Both of the videos are excellent. I occasionally have stressful times but I’ve found that doing breathing exercises and meditation are the most helpful for me. I don’t think I’m at the point where I need a class but if I ever become so stressed that it’s hard to handle, I’ll definitely take this into consideration.

    • Hi Cheryl,

      As you know, doing breathing exercises and doing meditation are great stress management techniques. One of the advantages of doing this particular online course is that you proceed at your own pace and learn additional effective stress management techniques and approaches. If you learn and do a number of different effective stress management techniques before you get stressed you might be able to keep the stress levels down and benefit that way. Just saying. πŸ™‚

      Of course, there are numerous ways to learn about stress management. Another way is to read my stress management techniques post. πŸ™‚

      Peace,
      David

  5. Stress, unfortunately, is and will be a constant in our lives, in comparison to previous generations it has risen quickly.

    When I look around to my social circle of family and friends there is no one who doesn’t suffer or has suffered at some point in the past from stress, myself included.

    I can’t speak for everyone in my social circle but only for myself, and by doing meditation, exercise (in my case gentle stretching or Yoga) and being outside in Nature has helped me to reduce my personal stress level quite a bit.

    I also strongly believe that courses on stress management should be mandatory for any employee. This might be still something happening in the future, but I think there is no other way when you like to stay healthy as an individual as well having healthy employees.

    Just my personal opinion..

    • Hi Sylvia,

      Yes, stress is something that comes up again and again. Usually people deal with it in an ad hoc manner, they pick up techniques that they see from their personal experience works for other people and apply those techniques to themselves. This is very much a hot or miss affair.

      I would prefer to have learned stress management techniques in some sort of structured environment where I learned and practiced a number of different techniques to discover for myself which ones I resonate with the most and which ones worked best for me.

      One of my other posts on this website lists and discusses a number of stress management techniques.

      My take is simple, if you know and practice on a regular basis a number of stress management techniques, that can help in your stress management.

      It just happens that I include meditation and walking (exercise) in nature in that article. πŸ™‚

      Peace,
      David

  6. My Mom has anxiety. She is doing better by staying away from the TV News, Reading Novels, Taking Walks, doing a Pool Exercise Class at the Y, other exercise classes at the Y, giving herself treats especially after something stressful like a mammogram, visiting the mountains or garden of the gods park, drinking plenty of water, seeing a nutritionist and following suggestions like gluten free. So some things on your list and several others that have been critical for her.

    Using the word ‘prefer’ instead of ‘must’ is interesting and I will mention it to her, but it might be difficult for her.

    • Hi Alexander,

      I learned about the using the word ‘prefer’ instead of ‘must’ in the excellent book “Anxiety And Panic: How To Reshape Your Anxious Mind And Brain” by Dr Harry Barry. I enjoyed reading that book and you can see why in my review of that book over here. He talks about a number of different approaches in his book, some of which your mother is already doing and some of which she might find helpful.

      Another very similar idea is to use the words ‘I choose to’ instead of ‘must’. For example instead of saying to yourself ‘I must take a 30 minute walk today’, saying to yourself ‘I choose to take a 30 minute walk today’ is better. The second sentence is ‘kinder’ to yourself. And if you do not do it, so what?

      Peace,
      David

  7. I had completly forgotten about brain dumps thank you so much for the refresher. I used to use them yrs ago a physiologist freind of mind had suggested it because of my insomnia. It did work for a bit. Again I found myself on your page at maybe just the right time. The universe is trying to tell me I need to deal with my stress I think. 

    • Hi Cathy,

      A few nights in the last year or so, when I found myself not falling asleep as quickly as I would like, I find that doing an unguided Loving-Kindness Meditation session in bed allowed me to sleep. I had the choice of doing a brain dump then or doing an unguided Loving-Kindness Meditation session in bed.

      I was too lazy to get out of bed and do the brain dump. I did the unguided Loving-Kindness Meditation session in bed, and was then able to fall asleep after doing it. I reached my primary goal of falling asleep which was the goal.

      Peace,
      David

  8. I have had a lot of stress in my life recently.  Mostly, mine has to deal with people that get on my nerves.  For instance, a coworker that won’t stop gossiping and management that is actually quite incompetent.  I have to admit it really does get under my skin, though.  

    Often times after work I get pretty stressed out about it.  I was looking for some advice on how to deal with this kind of stress.  Mostly, just dealing with people that you don’t really like.  It’s very hard for me since you got to see them every day.

    • Hi Garen,

      There are a great number of different stress management techniques mentioned throughout my website. 

      If you are not yet doing meditation on a daily basis, I would suggest that you look at it. There is a very popular meditation App called the Insight Timer App which you may find helpful. I wrote a detailed review of that App over here.

      Regarding the stressors you mention, the guided meditation sessions by Kenneth Soares within the Insight Timer App are ones I suggest that you listen to and see do you resonate with them. If not, there are loads of other meditation teachers inside of the App to listen to. Everyone has their favourites.

      Regarding the stressors you mention, one meditation technique is called Loving-Kindness, which may be of special interest. So within the Insight Timer App, look Loving-Kindness up and listen to a few of them. Different meditation teachers focus on different approaches, so you may find yourself doing a few different ones (over time) to see which ones you resonate with the most.

      As well as meditation, have a look at walking, make sure that you have a good diet, get enough good quality sleep and make sure you laugh often. If you can exercise the stress off after work that may be an idea. Maybe a brisk walk for 10 to 30 minutes every day after work may help. Or maybe walking during your lunch break may be an option.

      If there is still too much stress in your life, consider doing the Conscious Stress Management online course. You find my review of this course here.

      Peace,

      David

  9. Hi David,

    Wow, very well written article with tons of things to help with stress.  My stress usually comes with me compartmentalizing everything, and I mean everything.  I tend to let things add up on my end until I can’t concentrate on any one thing at a time.  I think “So What?” would help greatly with this.  I exercise about 50 minutes 5 or 6 times a week.  This is my greatest stress buster.  I do drink a lot of water but not every day.  And you know what?  On the days that I do drink a lot of water I do feel less stress.  I tend to allow my brain to wonder how other people perceive what I do, think and say.  Very, very bad habit.  I think I will start using “I do my thing and you do your thing”.  Lastly, being the gadget guy I am I had to go download the Insight Timer app for Android.  I will gives this a try and see how it helps.

    Thanks,

    Calvin

    • Hi Calvin,

      Thanks for letting me know that you find my post helpful. I hope that the different techniques improve your life no end. Personally I find it is all about having and using a number of different effective techniques most of the time that helps.

      Meditation is a great one, and learning/doing meditation using the Insight Timer App is a great and effective approach. Be sure to check out the 7 day learning meditation free course in that App even if you are already familiar with meditation.

      Peace,
      David

  10. This is a much needed article for me as this entire month has been a really stressful one. A lot of things couldn’t be done because the plan was derailed. I had hoped to meet the deadlines and all but things just didn’t work out. If there’s one thing I learn from this post is to drink plenty of water. It’s something that I always neglect whenever I am too busy and I could feel my body shutting down due to dehydration. 

    Thanks for the reminder.

    • Hi Cathy,

      You are welcome. Sometimes when a plan gets derailed, that is a good time to review the plan, and re-build the plan based on current information and current constraints. Having that review plan meeting may be difficult, even if it is only with yourself. It is important that people do not overdo it.

      Peace,
      David

  11. I like your recommendations like reading novels, treating oneself, going to seaside, brisk walks, and brain-dumps. About the rest, I’ve never tried them. Personally, I’ve faced stress a lot of times and wasn’t able to recognized I was in one. Someone just asked me to go play badminton and relieved me greatly. From there, I’ve seen I was having problem with stress. I did brisk walk and reading novels a lot of times. I never tried having apps or a course. 

    Well, anyway I just want you to know that this article is really good. I really affirm that these techniques work.

    • Hi Eli,

      Thanks for letting me know that this article is really good. I might just get a big head. πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

      I think that it is important to know a number of different techniques that are actually done on a regular basis, in order to help reduce stress and the like. A number of them are stuff that you might do anyway, and it is actually a bonus that they help to reduce stress. Some are ideas to help people look at events from different angles, and by so doing, maybe change your approach that might be better and/or less stressful to you.

      I am a big fan of using the popular meditation Insight Timer App. You see why in my review of that App here.

      Doing online courses about stress management and/or meditation, gives you additional options that you might find effective and a really good idea.

      And of course, you know that playing badminton is a good reliever for you, so don’t forget that one. πŸ™‚

      Peace,
      David

  12. Great Post! Sorry for your suffering. I am glad you decided to share this to help others like yourself rather than bottling it up and keeping it to yourself.I realize the power of words to affect our lives and those around us but I never actually think about thoughts (that’s a bit trippy).

    I suppose that is where words start though. right? I think that using the word prefer seems to be worth a try. I also like the idea of evaluating the reach and lifespan of a decision. This is not just a great way to de-stress but also a good way to gain perspective. The CBT cycle is also quite interesting.

    I will definitely try this, especially the walks!

    • Hi Renton,

      Yes, the technique of using the word “prefer” rather than “must” in your silent thinking is to be ‘kind to yourself’. I find personally if I say “I must do x” that I am putting myself under pressure. If I use “I prefer to do x”, I find that the ‘request’ is still there with a lot less pressure and that I appear to have a choice. If I do it, great. If not, no big deal.

      I hope that you enjoy your walks.

      Peace,
      David

  13. Hello David

    I have been diagnosed with Bipolar disorder when I was still a child so coming across your website has been a huge plus!

    Let’s talk stress, anxiety and all those things that happen as a result of us allowing ourselves to get caught off guard most times, which only further increases our stress and anxiety and if we are not careful, we only complicate things further!

    I like how organized your website is and the fact that you even suggested that I only read in bits and that’s a plus because you showed that you understand! I also like how strange it is that I kind of get what the content of each of your techniques will contain from it’s subject headline detailing what we must do to apply these techniques in our lives without yet reading it!

    I did bookmark this page on my browser because knowing how to live as unstressed as possible is very important tome!

    Thank you for writing this article, before I get back to my meditation, what do you suggest for people who feel too much in too extreme ways? You should do a special article for empaths, That would be cool!

    Stay cool and smile at life buddy

    Jose

    • Hi Jose,

      Thrilled to hear that you find the information on my website organised. I hope that the content is useful and beneficial to you, and that you learned about additional techniques which help you.

      Regarding your question “what do you suggest for people who feel too much in too extreme ways?”, I would suggest all the different techniques, methods, and suggestions mentioned in different posts on this website. It is very possible that online guided meditation sessions may also help. See here and here for recent posts I wrote regarding online guided meditation sessions.

      There is also this quote:

      I do my thing and you do your thing.
      I am not in this world to live up to your expectations,
      And you are not in this world to live up to mine.

      I discuss this quote above. You might consider writing down this quote in a notebook, so that you are refer to it on a regular basis.

      I hope that this information helps you.

      Peace,
      David

  14. Thank you for sharing your tried and tested methods of reducing stress and anxiety.  I was pleased to find that the advice I was giving my mother when she found it hard to breathe was the same as what you recommend: deep breathing for a few moments.

    You are so right about the way we think.  Sometimes to our detriment and we need to see things in a more positive light than negative.  Saying, ‘I can’t do this’  is admitting defeat already, but turning this around and saying, ‘I believe I have the ability to give this a try and find help if necessary’ is a much better way of handling a situation.

    I wholeheartedly agree that brisk walks will clear the cobwebs and will give the body that much needed workout to keep fit.  I used to run marathons and thus I know it works.  There were days when I was frustrated about work or a situation and I would go out running/jogging and come back with a new perspective on things and feeling much better overall.

    Your statement on the fact that stress causes dehydration and dehydration causes stress is a new one for me, however, I can see how it makes sense.  Thank you for sharing this valuable information with us.

    Edu

    • Hi Edu,

      You are welcome.

      One reason why I like having a number of stress management techniques in one long post like this, with a table of contents near the top is that I can quickly see which ones I need to get more details on and I am reminded of others that I may have forgotten about.

      Going running/jogging allows your body to increase the production of serotonin, which is a feel brain chemical which helps mood which explains why it helps with stress and anxiety and other things.

      Remaining dehydrated is an important one for sure.

      Peace,
      David

  15. Oh stress can be a killer. Science has proven this in many studies that I have read about. Some years ago when I was building up my business, the stress was too much. I began fainting for seemingly no reason that I could tell. After a few exams from Doctors, the conclusion was stress. My blood pressure was through the roof, causing the fainting. I had to make some changes in the amount of work I took on. I sure could have benefited from something like this, back then. 

    • Hi Medeleine,

      Thanks for sharing your experience of stress. It sounds like you have good doctors who came to the conclusion that it was stress and you were then able to make some changes on the amount of work you took on.

      There are many different effective strategies to manage stress. This website shares a number of them. This particular course is structured in such a way that people doing the course learn and start to practice additional ways to manage stress, very much on purpose and by design, which helps.

      I hope that your stress has been returned to normal healthy levels.

      Peace,
      David

  16. I never knew stress can actually kill a person !!!!!!!!! wow that is scary because to me it makes me work harder and more efficiently with tasks that need to be done. 

    I procrastinate everything so that when I stress I work better and my brain is in panic mode. But now I know its bad for my body and I am going to change my life style.

    • Hi Genecia,

      There are different types of stress. One is the “good stress” which gives you the “push” to get things done. The other is “bad stress” which is just bad. The following is an link to an interesting study.

      The Conscious Stress Management course I discussed above is one way to help you to manage your stress better. The course does include some applicable information about lifestyle as well as other great information. πŸ™‚

      Peace,
      David

  17. Hi there thanks for writing this review it seems more and more people could do with finding healthy ways to manage stress in our increasingly busy lives. The idea of a course is good to make people aware of what is stressing them out in the first place. Once you identify the triggers it makes it easier to manage. I like the idea of a course that lasts 28 days as this would help create a practice for stress management. I need to check out the course.

    • Hi Ann,

      Please do check out this course and let me know how you get on. The course itself includes a number of “stress busters”, designed on purpose and by design to help people to manage their stress. If only one of these “stress busters” is something that you are not aware off and you start to do this, then the course would be well worth its cost to you.

      Peace,
      David

  18. Hi David. Stress could come in different form. Could be mental stress, body stress etc and is very very harmful to our health generally. Thanks for sharing your number one recommendation on stress management; The Conscious Stress Management Course. Thanks for the proper review. I like the way you broke this article into tiny segments in your table of elements. I love it that you gave your pros and cons of this very Course.

    I strongly believe that this course will help anyone deal with and manage stress properly.

    Keep sharing and cheers.

    • Hi BEazzy,

      That is correct, stress does indeed come in a few different forms.

      I broke this article into sections and added a table of contents, well, because it is quite a long article. I respect the time of my readers, and the table of contents allows them to jump to the sections of special interest.

      Talk with you soon BEazzy,
      Peace,
      David

  19. Stress is most definitely harmful to our bodies, just as the video points out.  I try hard to keep my stress levels down, because I want to be around for a while longer.  At times, it is hard to manage.  Things get the best of me, and well I have a hard time getting rid of the stress….especially things that bother me.  Does this course go into how to deal with things that bother us, and ways to put this under control?

    • Hi Matt’s Mum,

      Yes, this course includes techniques on how to deal with things that bother us and ways to put this under control.

      Talk with you soon Matt’s Mum,
      Peace,
      David

  20. Stress can be a very difficult thing to deal with and every single person deals with it differently.  Just in the last year my family has had to go through so  much that every single one of us were stressed but each person dealt with it differently.

    A course for dealing with stress is a great idea.  At least for me I think it is.  I am one of those people that just keep everything inside but Im scared that one day it will all come to a head.

    Thank you for taking the time to write this article.  I am going to very carefully consider the course and everything about it.

    • Hi Dale,

      As you say, everyone deals with stress in different ways. Where this course wins out for me, is that a number of different techniques and approaches are discussed and practical advice on how to do these approaches are provided.

      The course is 28 ‘short daily sessions’ in length and each session builds on the previous session. By the end of the course, you have a number of techniques available to you, so you end up doing the ones that help you the most or the ones that you enjoy doing the most. 

      Meditation is a practice that is discussed in this course along with advise on how to start. It is a practice that may help you to manage your stress and help you with your concern that one day it will all come to a head. 

      Talk with you soon Dale,
      Peace,
      David

  21. Thank you for this helpful post on stress management.I have been stressed since i got married due to bad relationship i had with my ex husband and i can say that stress is very harmful to people ‘s life.I tried to go to gym to do some physical exercises but i didn’t succeed until i found myself in a situation where i am about to be crazy.This situation showed me that i need some counselling course and my counselor gave me the solution of starting stress management.

    I am happy that people can change their situation through such a wonderful course of stress management.

    • Hi Julienne,

      I hope that your counsellor was able to give you some ideas about starting stress management.

      This course for instance was developed by a psychotherapist who has put together this online course based on her experience of helping people with their stress. The course itself is divided up into “daily” short sessions, which build up on earlier days. It is online and you proceed at your own pace. You learn and start practicing doing stress buster activities from early on in the course.

      Talk with you soon Julienne,
      Peace,
      David

  22. Than you for this really useful post. I suffered with stress last year and has to take ai lot of time off work. I am doing better now but techniques like this will really help me to stay in a good place. I like that it has daily bite size tips. That is ideal.

    • Hi Chris,

      I am sorry to hear that you suffered with stress last year and had to take time off work. I am thrilled though to hear that you are doing better now. It can be a slow process. That is why a course like this can be a good idea.

      Having a number of simple and effective techniques that you can use to help manage stress on a proactive basis is a great idea and this is one of the areas where this course is a stress buster.

      Talk with you soon Chris,
      Peace,
      David

  23. Hey David,

    what an informative and captivating article, wow! You’ve done an amazing job David! I have learned a lot of new things today. What stood out for me the most was learning about how stress affects our different body parts in unique ways. I was very shocked to discover that stress can induce acne and other skin problems, well that might explain a lot of things to me… I was also pretty surprised to learn that stress can lead to impotence, lower sperm prduction and reduced sexual desire…wow. who would have thought! I would imagine it would be completetly opposite, because sex can be an amazing wat to relief stress, therefore the desire for sex should be bigger when You feel stressed out…well, I think to each his own, right? Or am I missing something here. Either way, I really enjoyed this article, it is honestly one of the best articles that I’ve read in a long time! Bookmarking this page for sure πŸ˜‰ Thanks a lot and keep up the good woork David !

    • Hi Evald,

      Thank you. Quite often stress plays a role with our health. That is one really important reason to ensure that stress is kept to a healthy low level. Meditation is a great stress buster and is discussed in this course, along with some practical advice on how to start meditation. It is quite simple when you have the proper instructions. Like a lot of things in life. πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

      Just know that stress is not the only suspect in that list. That is why it is also important to rule out other causes of the items on that list, and get properly checked out by applicable medical professionals. Just understand that in the case of a physical reason that stress may also be a factor.

      In a lot of cases when people are stressed out, they are ‘low energy’ and do not always have the energy for activities that they enjoy. That is why some stress management techniques focus on ‘rebuilding yourself first’ at a pace that works for you.

      Talk with you soon Evald,
      Peace,
      David

  24. Hey David, I liked your post. You pointed out a lot of great points in your article like how powerful stress management is and how its more helpful than harmful. I can relate to that because I deal with a lot of people on my job and most of them are just as stressful as stressful can be along with the job itself. Also, I destress by playing video games and writing my short stories. Your article has a lot to offer people who need help with stress management. Great read, good job!

    • Hi R.J. 

      Thanks. Yes, with a lot of things in life, if people included conscious stress management in their lives, it can help a lot. If they are really lucky, it will be a preventive maintenance activity for them. Else, it will be an activity that helps them to reduce their stress back to manageable levels. I think that if people know and practice effective and usually simple stress management techniques that it helps them.

      Everyone has different ways to destress. Whatever ways work for you.

      This course includes a number of different ways. Even if just one of these ways that you were not doing before you purchased the course helps you to manage your stress better that would be good news.

      Talk with you soon R.J.,
      Peace,
      David

  25. Hi David,

    Thanks so much for this article on stress. I really enjoyed reading it and learned a lot. I personally often feel stressed even though my life actually isn’t that stressful. But it is definitely not because of a lack of sleep because I sleep a lot! Almost too much. I think I might give meditation a try. 

    Keep up the great work.

    • Hi Los,

      Just be careful that you do not get too much sleep. That can also not help.

      Meditation is a great activity. It can be like hitting the “pause” button. It gives you a chance to recharge and refocus. I highly recommend it and once you learn it and practice it for a while, you have a new life long new skill that is sure to help you with your life. I sometimes do “mini-meditations” when waiting. It helps to spend “wasted” time well.

      May you get the right amount of quality sleep every night Los.

      Peace,
      David

  26. I can fully relate with this topic because I currently battle with the effects of stress on a daily basis. Chronic insomnia is one of the reasons I am stressed. To me it’s a vicious cycle: I don’t sleep because of stress, and stress makes me sleepless. I have been under several medications, but quickly develop tolerance for them. I haven’t heard about Atrial Fibrillation before. I guess I have to dig deeper into the subject. Maybe combining therapy with meditation will offer some relief.

    • Hi there,

      Atrial Fibrillation is a heart condition. If you have any heart related or other health concerns you should consult your doctor.

      Please take a moment to check out my Sleep article as I discuss over 14 different natural ideas which you might want to do. If just one of them helps a bit, that is a win for you. And you have over 14 different natural ideas to explore. No doubt you may have already tried a number of them. Maybe combining a number of them at the same time may help.

      I practice meditation every day, and I also practice “meditation” in bed before falling asleep most nights. I find that this approach works for me. I discuss this approach in my Sleep article.

      May you be free from stress. May you get enough sleep every night.

      Peace,
      David

  27. Thank you for sharing with us this great article on stress management.We always find situations which stress us and that’s too bad to our health.

    Meditation ans sleep well can be of big help to manage stress.

    It is a good thing that we can test our level of stress with Kardia mobile and we can avoid the stress effects before they appear.

    • Hi Julienne,

      In my view it is important to have as many different effective ways to manage and reduce stress as much as possible to help us with our wellbeing and health.

      Kardia Mobile is a great way to get EKGs which in turn may show heart related problems which should be followed up with your doctor or your cardiologist. Even if someone gets EKGs in hospital, those EKGs show how the heart was performing during that very short period of time.

      So someone could have a heart problem that does not appear during that time. This is where the Holter Monitor comes in. This is where you wear a Holter Monitor for 24 hours or 48 hours. This captures heart related information during that time. Again, it is possible that a heart problem does not appear during that time.

      Doctors and cardiologists use the results of medical tests along with what the patient reported to come to a medical diagnosis. So someone who has a potential heart condition could use Kardia Mobile during an event to capture an EKG. The result of that EKG determines the next move.

      Kardia Mobile is cleared by the FDA so any EKGs it generates have to be taken seriously by medical professionals in the United States.

      May you be free from stress Julienne,

      Peace,
      David

  28. Thanks for sharing this informative and educative post on how to manage stress. This post has save a life and that’s mine because I’m not aware of these ways to manage stress. Last week I was totally down and when our family doctor came after some checks he told me to free myself from stress, but how will I do that because it is a must for me to do my everyday job so I can earn money. Reading this post has taught me what to do . 

    • Hi Lok,

      Thank you for letting me know that you find this article informative and educational.

      May you manage your stress successfully and enjoy life Lok.

      Peace,
      David

  29. I agree that not sleeping well becomes a vicious cycle becuase I don’t sleep well at all, then I nap during the day because I’m too tired. Then I can’t sleep the next night, and it goes on like this. My body is used to not sleeping well so I never sleep well, over 2 years it’s been like this now. I can imagine lack of sleep causes many complications. 

    • Hi Jayde,

      Please take a moment to check out my Sleep article as I discuss over 14 different natural ideas which you might want to do. If just one of them helps a bit, that is a win for you. And you have over 14 different natural ideas to explore. No doubt you may have already tried a number of them. Maybe combining a number of them at the same time may help.

      I practice meditation every day, and I also practice “meditation” in bed before falling asleep most nights. I find that this approach works for me.

      You may need to consult your doctor Jayde about your sleep habits if it does not resolve after reading my Sleep article and following a few of those suggestions.

      Maybe take a walk during the day instead of napping may help.

      May you be kind to yourself in the process of learning new sleep habits,
      May you get enough sleep every night Jayde.

      Peace,
      David

  30. Hi David! After checking these facts concerning these 100 persons interviewed, (I do admit 100 is a small number) I really find interesting that more than half associated their AFib to stress.

    I think one of the main points to control stress is to get enough sleep. I’ll also check your post on that topic. It’s one of my main resolutions for this 2019. Thank you very much for sharing the results of this study.

    • Hi there,

      Yes, like you I think that the small sample of 100 people is too small to come to any overall conclusion about these findings for most if not all Atrial Fibrillation sufferers, however the information is interesting as over half indicated that they felt that stress was a trigger in their Atrial Fibrillation which is significant.

      Controlling stress in my view involves doing a number of different stress management techniques very much on purpose on a regular basis:
      Getting enough quality sleep every night
      Practicing meditation every day
      Going for walks when the weather permits every day
      Eating Well and eating a varied diet of “good things” every day
      Laughing every day

      These all help along with many other stress management techniques.

      May you control your stress.

      Peace,
      David

  31. Hi David,

    This is a very indepth report on stress.

    I am a firm believer in getting the best sleep as well as enough sleep, at least eight hours a night.  Without this the body is at risk of stress and many related symptoms. Having found your site I am interested in your review on meditation as I believe this helps imensley. 

    Thank you for sharing this information. 

    Debs. 

    • Hi Debs,

      I wanted to provide information on ways to manage stress. Getting enough quality sleep every night helps the body to recover and recharge for the next day. Learning about as many different effective ways to manage stress is important so that a number of them are practiced on a regular basis.

      Meditation is a great activity. It can be like hitting the β€œpause” button. It gives you a chance to recharge and refocus. I highly recommend it and once you learn it and practice it for a while, you have a new life long new skill that is sure to help you. I practice meditation every day and I also practice “meditation” in bed before falling asleep most nights. I find that this approach works for me. I discuss this approach in my Sleep article.

      May you get enough quality sleep every night Debs,

      Peace,
      David

  32. Hi David
    What a fantastic website it is great to see a site combining all of the different effects of stress and solutions to the problems all in one place. I especially like your emotional stress graphic it is very concise and informing. Thanks for the information and I look forward to reading more of your work.

    • Hi Simon,

      I am thrilled and excited that you like my website. I learned a lot about stress over the last while and wanted to share that information in such a way that other people find useful and of benefit in their own lives. There are potentially loads of different solutions, some work, some do not, and some require a regular time commitment in order to keep stress levels down to an acceptable level.Β This is why I suggest that you know a number of different stress management techniques so that you have a number of options available to you to help you manage your own stress levels, some of which I talk about more in this website. I find that knowing more stress management techniques helps me to manage my stress.

      Peace,
      David

  33. It’s crazy because for the past 7 months it feels like I’ve been stuck in this never ending loop of problems happening one after another. And after looking at some techniques to help manage your stress, there’s at least 6 of them that I don’t do and I feel like it would really make a difference in my life. The one that stands out the most though is slowing down, I am always rushing from place to place because either I’m on a time crunch, or I put myself in a time crunch because I know I only have a little time before I’m on a time crunch again lol.

    But this is just life, and if I just slow down and calm down everything will work itself out. Thanks for the article man this really helps!

    • Hi Gabe,Β 

      I know, life is so busy all the time that we forget to slow down sometimes. I know from my experience that taking up meditation on a daily basis helps me to slow down, which in turn allows me to manage my stress better. A while back I knew next to nothing about meditation, so I did some learning. One great meditation resource/tool is The Insight Timer App which I find useful in this regard.

      Peace,
      David

  34. I think you already have a great website and with time it will get even better. Thanks for doing what you are doing! Nowadays a lot of people suffer from stress and anxiety, and they need people like you who are going through the same experience. You know what helped you to manage stress, anxiety and you can help others to find their way to deal with these problems. Thanks for being you and want to help others.
    I love you 10 effective ways to manage stress. I would make this list differently, but still, it’s great. We all look at things differently, and that makes this life and world so unique and beautiful.
    Thanks again! Great recommendation about meditation!

    • Hi Linda,

      Thanks. Everyone experiences life in different ways and this includes experiencing stress and anxiety. I think that it is very important to be aware of a number of different approaches which help to make it better for people. Stress and anxiety can build up over time and people may reach a tipping point. I hope that the information here helps to keep people on the right side of that tipping point.

      I experienced a really bad panic attack a while back and no way do I want a repeat of it. I also do not want anyone to experience a panic attack. If I had been following some more of the suggested activities above, I might not have experienced that bad panic attack.

      I now do meditation every single day with no let up whatsoever. It helps me greatly.

      Peace,
      David

  35. I have been very stressed a few years ago because I constantly worried about everything and my life wasn’t going as I wanted it to go. I’ve found meditation to be a really great way to manage my stress but since I was new to it, it was really hard to learn the ropes of meditation. I wish I found this website earlier because it would’ve saved me so much time.

    • Hello,

      It sounds like the information on this website would have helped you a lot if you had found it earlier. Now that you have found it, I would suggest that you bookmark it!

      The information here outlines a number of different ways to manage stress which are usually quite easy to do once you know them. The hard bit is actually getting the time to practice these different ways. For instance, adding walking and meditation to your daily routine can be difficult due to the number of demands placed on you.

      I recommend meditation and there are loads of different meditation resources out there. I recommend the Insight Timer App as they have a free version which gives you access to thousands of different meditation recordings which you can do online. This is the meditation app I use myself.

      Peace,
      David

  36. Thank you for your list of stress management techniques. I follow a morning ritual every day. I have tried several different meditation and visualization techniques. I will definitely be looking more into your different stress management techniques including your recommendation about the Insight Timer App. Thank you for bringing this to my attention!

    • Hi Michael,

      I am happy that you already found an option that seems to be helping you to relieve your stress. I would still suggest that you look at the different techniques mentioned in this article as well, to see if any of them would also help. You may of course be already aware of them but which you do not currently use. The trick is to use a stress management technique quickly, efficiently and effectively which works in the moment.

      Peace,
      David

  37. Stress is such a difficult thing to deal with, your page and info is very helpful!

    • Hi Brooke,

      Yes, stress is something that can be difficult to manage effectively. I created this website to help you. At this website, I outline mainly simple effective useful techniques that may help you with your stress management.

      Peace,
      David

  38. You are right! Stress affects every part of our body, and in different ways with different people. I do not handle some stress the best. I think my problem is that I like everything to be in order, done properly, caught up, etc. I get stressed when it is not, and I go overboard working on getting everything done to where it should be. At work, this can be great! Personally, not so great. I have found some techniques I use, because my mind goes on overkill until everything is sorted out and stuff. This might be just what I need! Thanks for sharing!

    • Hi Matts Mom,

      Yes, that is correct. Stress affects people in different ways, and different people react differently to stressful situations.

      The information on this webpage outlines a number of different simple effective ways to help manage stress. This helps you for sure because you learn about a number of different approaches. Of course it is up to you to try out the different techniques (and other techniques that you are also know) to determine which ones make the most sense to you in your particular case.

      Peace,
      David

  39. Hi David,

    I never considered that some of my recent odd behavior could be stress-related. I’m definitely going to try some of these stress relieving techniques I’m sure that they will be useful. Thanks so much for this post!

    • Hi Linda,

      You are welcome. It sounds like you found this website just in time. πŸ™‚

      Be sure to bookmark it! This can be done by pressing Control and D at the same time in some web browsers.

      Peace,
      David

  40. Here’s something I do that always makes me feel better. It could be a great stress management technique!

    Pop bubble wrap.

    I pop bubble wrap every time I get bubble wrap. Not sure why but it always makes me feel better.

    • Hi Christina,

      Thanks for that. I never thought of that as a stress management technique.

      I am the same, I love popping bubble wrap. I am sure many people do. Looking for ones to pop is part of the fun.

      That is a great stress management technique for sure. πŸ™‚

      Peace,
      David

  41. Hi David!
    I totally like the idea of your website outlining different approaches to manage stress!
    I can imagine being in a park or a peaceful beach and going through the different approaches mentioned in your website on my iPad or phone.
    It sounds like your website outlining different ways to manage stress is a great one.

    Thanks for the valuable information.

    • Hi Eliane,

      I never thought of actually reading the content of my website in a park or at a peaceful beach. That is an interesting idea. As some of the stress management methods suggest some techniques where you close your eyes, those ones I wouldn’t suggest doing in a public place where there may be security concerns and where you need to be aware fully of your surroundings.

      Peace,
      David

  42. The stress management approaches you mention here sound interesting. I know all too well how stress can affect health. For me I turned to prayer and some simple yoga deep breathing techniques. Of course facing the cause of the stress and trying to cut it out of your life is another approach but it is not something that can be easily done, depending on the situation at hand.

    As much as I am a techie geek, I still feel that technology’s infiltration into our daily lives is a big contributor of daily stress. Things were a lot simpler and less stressful before smartphones and social media. Nowadays people want instant and fast things to happen. I recently unplugged myself from using my computer, smartphone and social media for a couple of days, and my stress levels went way down.

    • Hi Robert,

      Glad to hear that your stress levels went way down when you were “off the grid” for a few days.

      One brilliant idea is to unplug yourself from using your computer, smartphone and social media for about 2 hours before you go to bed.

      If you drink coffee, another idea is to not drink coffee after 6 pm, assuming that you go to bed sometime after 10 pm.

      These simple ideas are really effective, as they help you sleep better. Getting the right amount of quality sleep is good for you.

      Peace,
      David

  43. Hi, David!

    Great information about different stress management techniques! It looks like you know a lot about different stress management techniques.
    In fact, I am interested in learning more about different stress management tips, because it seems useful and I become stressed very easily. I am sure it would help me too.

    Thanks for this valuable information!
    I believe many people will be happy to find your site and learn about these different stress management techniques.

    Thanks for sharing!

    • Hi Linda,

      Stress is a part of life. It is important to know different techniques that help you to manage stress so that you can enjoy life and do the things that you want to do. This website outlines a number of ideas and suggestions which will help you to manage your stress better. Of that I have no doubt.

      Peace,
      David

  44. Thank you for this informative article. I suffer from anxiety, though I have it under control most of the time, there are times when I need to make an effort to keep it together. I found your article to be really helpful and I will be trying some of these techniques in the future, most likely the meditation. I have bookmarked your site to read more of your material.

    • Hi Stephanie,

      Lots of people suffer from stress or anxiety. I am thrilled that you have yours under control most of the time. I hear you when you say there are times when you need to make an effort to keep it together.

      Being aware that there are different techniques to help helps a lot. Knowing how to practice these when needed also helps a lot. Knowing and practicing meditation will help.

      A book I strongly recommend that comes with a free CD containing eight guided meditations is called “Mindfulness – A Practical Guide To Finding Peace In A Frantic World”. You can see my review of this book here. You may already know, that Mindfulness is a meditation technique.

      Peace,
      David

  45. great,informative site, in this day and age when it seems like there is not enough time in the day and people seem to be running all over with way to much on their plate stress seems to be like an epidemic. I think this website could help so many people relieve a lot stress that they actually put on themselves, kudos to you for such a helpful website:)

    • Hi Robert,

      There is a lot of stress and anxiety in today’s modern world. Part of the problem in my opinion is that a lot of people are connected to the online world all of the time, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week thing with no let up. One idea is to unplug themselves on a regular basis and just do something that they truly enjoy with no chances of that time being interrupted.

      Peace,
      David

  46. I these days when stress is so prevalent it is difficult to find anyone who has never experienced it. And as you say, excessive stress can be very detrimental to health and well-being.I think that we have all gone through some periods of stress in our lives, whether it is work-related or connected with some traumas of life, such as bereavement or divorce.

    I am lucky enough not to be experiencing stress at the moment, but should I ever need it I think that I will definitely check out this article again.

    Many thanks.

    Chrissie πŸ™‚

    • Hi Chrissie,

      If you are not experiencing stress at the moment, this may be a good time for you to try out a few of these techniques. A bit like that old saying about a “a stitch in time, saves nine”. πŸ™‚ 

      Peace,
      David

  47. I tend to stress over little simple things. I am a bit OCD and a bit of a clean freak in all regards of my life. Because of this I get stressed when things are not in order, in place, etc. That can even go for my son getting his school work done, lol. So, I can stress easily and it is very hard to get off my mind. So relaxing in a sauna or Jacuzzi tends to not be so relaxing for me. I have learned some techniques that are helping….a lot. But the techniques you explain here sound good and could be just what I need! Thanks!

    • Hi Matts Mom,

      You are welcome. Thanks for letting me know. I hope that you find these stress management techniques useful and practical in your life. πŸ™‚

      Peace,
      David

  48. I already use the 2nd only that I usually try to think if it’s gonna be important in one year instead of five, the 4th – I live in a city next to the sea, so I usually walk along the beach line – and the 7th. I’ll try the rest of them, too!
    Thanks for the article!

    • Hi Jenny,

      That is an interesting twist to technique 2. I think the idea of a long period of time helps to determine if the case is really important or not. For me, the long period is 5 years and for you, the long period is 1 year. What ever works for you is what I say.

      I have a number of different techniques mentioned in different posts. My plan is to gather them into this one post. I will be adding them one by one to this post over time. I actually mentioned going to the seaside in one of my other posts here. My understanding is that if you can see the blue sea for a long distance, it is really good to help in reducing stress levels. Something to do with the beauty of it and the vastness of the sea. Lucky you. πŸ™‚

      Peace,
      David

  49. Great article David!

    I have been a meditator for more than 20 years and thoroughly endorse your thoughts on it. It really helped me at a very traumatic time in my life. I meditate morning and night and when I forget or don’t have time I really feel the effects.

    Water is also a great tip. I heard it was 33 in Scotland today so yes it is a real heatwave over there. I am in Australia so we know a thing or 2 about heat haha! Thanks for the great tips,

    Kev

    • Hi Kev,

      I am never going to catch up with you. πŸ™‚

      I have been meditating now for some time every day and find it helpful.

      You might like to learn more about a three minute meditation session. I find that knowing this, and practicing it, I am able to do meditation every single day, as I can always get in three minutes if I am really busy. I usually use a 3 minute meditation session as a fall-back if it looks like I am not going to get in a longer session. πŸ™‚

      Dr Harry Barry discusses a three minute meditation session in his book “Anxiety And Panic: How To Reshape Your Anxious Mind And Brain”. You can see my review of this book here.

      One of the guided meditations in the book “Mindfulness – A Practical Guide To Finding Peace In A Frantic World”, (this book comes with a free CD of eight Guided Meditations), is a three minute guided meditation. You can see my review of this book here.

      And of course, a few of the many thousand guided meditation sessions in the Insight Timer App cover this three minute guided meditation. Of course, each of these three minute guided meditations are different. The Insight Timer App also have one minute guided meditations for the days where you are really busy and most likely need a short meditation break.

      Peace,
      David

  50. Another thing you can do is check out some of the relaxing sounds that people have recorded on YouTube. I’ve found some amazing recordings (like rain in a pond, a stream, the seaside) and there’s nothing better than riding home on transit and tuning out to this stuff.

    • Hi Dave,

      Thanks for this. I can see how this technique can work. And I love the examples that you mentioned.

      I really like the idea of listening to selected sounds. I would caution that some sounds may make you “too relaxed” and may not be suitable to listen to when doing something that requires all of your focus and attention, like driving. So people would need to take this into account when following up on this one and be really sensible.

      I know that when waiting in some waiting rooms, that they have slow classical music playing rather than a radio show. A radio show is way more likely to mention stuff that would not help stress or that would not help anxiety.

      Peace,
      David

  51. I love this article, it is very informative and I will be coming back for updates.
    Use the word ‘prefer’ instead of ‘a must’ is a technique I will implement, it immediately takes the pressure off doing something!
    I often meditate but not as consistent as I should! I am an avid journal writer, it is therapeutic for me and that is what I do I dump all that is in my head on paper.
    WTF or So What? and CBT techniques are brilliant I feel like they have given me permission to imagine the best outcome for me, yes that is certainly more joyful!

    Happy to have come across your page.
    Thank you!
    Anastacia

    • Hi Anastacia,

      Thanks indeed for your input here. I am thrilled and delighted that you love this, found it very informative and will be coming back for updates.

      Most of these strategies are pretty easy to understand. Once you are aware of them, you start to do them more and more, and that is all good.

      Peace,
      David

  52. Some of these things stress me out. I can’t stand novels. I tend to get wrapped up in the storyline and emotional about something that was fake. I gave up on them years ago and feel like it has lowered my stress levels.

    • Hi Melinda,

      Thanks for your comment.

      If you have a closer look at the detail in the “Read Novels” section, you will see that I suggest reading novels “that you totally enjoy and totally engage in. The important thing is that you totally engage yourself in the story.”

      I also say “Note that whatever you read for stress relief, is something that you enjoy reading and something that you totally engage in. Reading a technical work related document might not fit the bill in this instance.”

      It sounds to me as if the novels you were reading earlier you were not enjoying. There are loads of different genes of novels that are out there and it is possible that novels in other genes may be ones “that you totally enjoy and totally engage in. The important thing is that you totally engage yourself in the story.”

      For instance, I do not like horror novels because, well those novels freak me out and do my stress levels no good at all. So I simply do not read that gene of novels. Whereas I like a good thriller that I truly totally enjoy and totally engage in.

      You are of course quite correct not to read novels that you do not enjoy as that would be counter productive. And I agree 100% with you on that. The whole idea in my opinion, when reading novels for pleasure is to enjoy them and to get pleasure from reading them.

      Peace,
      David

  53. there are some good stress relieving techniques on your post and actually there are 2 that i do quite regularly. If things start to get on top of me i like to take a nice long walk, as it seams to relieve any stress that has accumulated. I will listen to some calming music, from my favourite singers, that does relax me.

    • Hi Andrew,

      Thanks. Yes, there are some good stress relieving techniques here.

      I think that it is important to practice good stress relieving techniques on a daily basis, although they may not always be thought off as stress relieving techniques. For instance, walking to the shop to get sandwiches and back to the office every work day may use up 30 – 40 minutes every work day. That daily walk on work days also has a stress relieving function which is important.

      And as you say, listening to calm music by your favourite singers also works as as a stress relieving technique. All good.

      Peace,
      David

  54. Great article no doubt. I have learned to slow my breathing and curb my anxiety by just letting things go. What is of no concern to me is not my business and I am not here to save the world. I can totally relate to this post. Well written and informative!

    • Hi David,

      Thanks for your kind words. You actually reminded me of a quote:

      I am not in this world to live up to your expectations.
      You are not in this world to live up to my expectations.

      Thanks again,
      Peace,
      David

  55. What a great and detailed post you have here. I love your stress management technique of asking yourself questions because this is exactly what I do when I face any problem not even stress related.
    This alone has helped me a lot in life.

    One thing I will be trying out is meditation. I will let you know how it goes

    • Hi Thabo,

      Yes, I agree with you. A lot of the “stress management techniques” I share on here could also act as “general life techniques”.

      Meditation is a great way to help relieve stress as well as having a number of other life benefits, so learning how to meditate and then actually doing it on a regular basis if possible is potentially a great win win situation for you.

      Peace,
      David

  56. Wow David, what a thorough article! 

    I found myself in a bunch of your techniques.  Being a full time employee, I do get my stress levels higher than I want sometimes, but by using some of the techniques you enumerate here like meditation and going to the beach are my favorite ones to get my stress level down and my anxiety out the door.

    This past winter, I started a new position in my organization and my stress levels went through the roof, so much so that I had pain in my intestines that I thought was something bad. I went to my doctor, and sure enough, she said it was caused by my high level of stress!  As soon as I heard her diagnostic, the pain went away.  That’s how weird our brain works I guess.

    A few of the things you mention here I don`t do enough like drinking water and reading.  I will bookmark your post for further consultation. 

    Thanks for this very informative article!

    Denis

    • Hi Denis,

      I am glad that you found my post helpful. The post is long because I wanted to explain things with enough detail that people can actually use the information straight away. Some of the ideas are easier to put into use straight away and some require a time commitment. Personally I find meditation a great technique to use. If you have a smartphone, a brilliant way to learn and do meditation is to use the Insight Timer App.

      Since I discovered that reading is a great stress buster, I have been reading thriller novels in bed just before going asleep. I have to say that I find this a great one especially if the novel is good.Β 

      I am thrilled and delighted that you found this post helpful.

      Peace,
      David

  57. One of the best article will help persons to improve their health because being stressed can affect a persons health in huge way, and having a good health is the best. technique is my best. i do this all the time. it really helps. doing this allows the body to focus on so many other outdoor factors and allow the mind to drift from whatever is causing  stress thus improving a persons health, doing this on a daily basis can be very effective. I really love these techniques and i am going to bookmark this page so i can alway read this when ever i am feeling overwhelmed because that the first stage of being stressed. 

    • Hi Micheal,

      Yes, I agree with you, having unnecessary stress in our lives can affect us in negative ways, and one of the ways is that it can affect our health. That is one reason why it is so important in my opinion to know as many different ways to reduce stress as possible and that these ways are practiced on a regular basis.

      Some things like learning how to meditate and actually doing some meditation every day is a great way to help manage stress. Other ways to manage stress should also be practiced on a regular enough basis that suits you and the situations you find yourself in.

      No two people are the same and everyone I think have their own ways of managing stress. I hope that people find these ways useful and are able to use as many of them that resonate with them as possible, remembering of course, that the ways you use today may change in the future as you become aware of additional ways.

      I hope that you find these ways useful in helping you to keep stress at bay.

      Peace,
      David

  58. I loved your article and I think you have a great site! I found 3 stress management techniques in your post that I really gravitate towards: The first is “Interrupt a thought process.” I love affirmations and use them regularly. I find that the more I regularly I recite them, the more consistently better I feel. Do you have any personal favorites that you use regularly? The 2nd is “Getting enough water.” It makes so much sense. One question that has always nagged at me and for which I have gotten varying replies is does this only pertain to water or could any non-alcoholic beverage also qualify? Would coffee count as a viable beverage? Please say “yes” :-). My 3rd favorite is “Read novels”. I consider this a wakeup call as I haven’t read any kind of a novel in at least 10 years. That’s just sad. And I love reading! I’m going to go to my bookshelf, grab one and get re-started! 

    Thanks so much for sharing your tips. It gave me a lot of food for thought.

    Cheers,

    Norman

    • Hi Norman,

      Yes, I use affirmations as well. The affirmations I use change all the time as I come across different ones that I resonate with. At the moment my favourite ones are “I choose to be well. I am happy. I am safe. I am love. I am peace”. These are ones that I picked up from some great meditation teachers when using the Insight Timer App.

      Your question about drinking water and non-alcoholic beverages is an interesting one. My understanding is that it is a “water” count so as long as water is there, you are good to go, like in dilating orange squash. There are many opinions about Coffee make with water. I would say that if you drink some coffee it would be ok but drinking a lot may be problematic. The problem with coffee is that it has caffeine in it and too much caffeine interferes with the human body. I wrote a post called Is Caffeine Bad For You which you might like to read.

      Regarding reading novels, I was actually in the same boat a few months ago, I hadn’t read any novels for ages and ages. Someone suggested reading might be a good idea and I resumed reading novels again. I am re-reading novels I read ages ago and I find that it helps me in managing my stress. I hope you have the same experience.

      Peace,
      David

  59. A very informative and reassuring article. As a manager in the insurance industry, work can be stressful at times. Having read your article I can relate to a few of the techniques mentioned. One in particular “will it matter in 5 years time” is one that I utter on many occasions when the pressure is cranking up and the outcome is not looking favourable. I also like to go for a walk alone in the country side most Saturday mornings. Although I’m only gone for around 30 minutes, I switch the phone off and find that this time allows me to collect my thoughts from the previous week before and refocus the mind for the week ahead.

    As I go forwards, I will look to implement a few more techniques with drinking more water definitely top of the list.

    • I am thrilled and delighted that you already use a few of them. Walking in the countryside is a good one. If you can be away from motorised traffic and the noises of motorised traffic it can help further. Based on how long you walk on a regular basis can have additional long term health benefits as well. The World Health Organisation recommend that most adults today should be getting in at least 150 minutes of moderate exercise per week and some types of walking can be counted towards this.

      Peace,
      David

  60. I used to be an expert in getting stressed. I was in such a stressful job situation that when I saw my office building on the way to work, I could feel the adrenaline rush. My 10-hour workdays felt like 2 hours.   While at work, I drank lots of water, limited my coffee consumption to mornings only, and did some deep breathing exercises. That helped me cope with work and get through the day. During the commute home, I usually napped for 20-30 minutes. Fortunately, I was not driving. I finally solved the stress issue, I left the workforce.

    • Hi Glen,

      Well done on identifying the primary source of your stress issue and taking corrective action. I hope now that your stress issue is resolved.

      Peace,
      David

  61. Hi David,

    What a great article.  It covers sooo much I am in awe really. And I bookmarked it as I want to check out some of the related articles as well.  Fantastic!!!

    I really do want to get into meditation as I know it is good for the soul.

    Thanks again David for sharing all you know on this. I don’t suffer anxiety but I do think we all have stressful times in our lives and it is great when you have the tools on how to manage it.

    Cheers, Sharon

    • Hi Sharon,

      I have a very specific idea if you want to explore meditation in more detail:

      This is to do the Learn Meditation Course which is free on the Insight Timer App.

      Glad to hear that you do not suffer anxiety, lucky you. πŸ™‚

      In my opinion a lot of different tools, techniques, mindsets and the like can help people in different ways. A lot of the techniques I mention in this article also would be great tools for self-improvement as well as stress and anxiety.

      Peace,
      David

  62. Hi David

    Obviously you have spent much time researching, living and dealing with stress and I commend you on so ably organizing all your techniques into one article.  Some I found quite interesting and others I have tried myself from time to time.  Dealing with the management of disruptive “anythings” in our lives requires much discipline and different modalities depending on the situation.  Thank you for a well-written summary!

    • Hi Sharon,

      Thank you very much for the compliment. I am highly motivated to manage my stress and anxiety better. Based on my experience of managing it, I have learned different ideas and techniques which help me. I hope that they help you.

      I wanted to include a number of the techniques into one article. I hope that you can quickly scan over the techniques and try out any that seem to resonate with you.

      Some are ideas that you may already know and have used elsewhere in your life, and never occurred to use as a “stress management technique”. I hope that the article helps you out.

      Peace,
      David

  63. I have recently started doing something similar to your first stress management technique. Every day I have  a bunch of things I have to do and sometimes I start to get really discouraged thinking about them. My brain likes to head down the path of, “how in the world am I going to accomplish all these tasks?” And when that happens it wastes valuable time feeling anxious instead of actually getting started.

    I have found that simply by changing the voice in my head to say, “I want to…” instead of “I need to…” I suddenly feel much more capable. I think changing that word eliminates the shame from the sentence. The shame that will accompany the fact that we didn’t get something we ‘need’ to do, done. But if it’s something that we want to do, then if we completed it great and if not, that’s fine too.

    I was amazed at how well this worked for me right off the bat. Such a simple thing to do as well! 

    • Hi Mariah,

      Wow. I love your you use a slightly different technique to my first one. Your technique and the one I explain as my number 1 technique really shows the power of words, even the power of words in our own minds.

      Another powerful phrase is “I choose to ….”. Using powerful phrases is very empowering and very effective, and can as you say work well “right off the bat”.

      Simple. Easy. Effective.

      Peace,
      David

  64. Well I literally just encountered a very stressful discovery to my business right before I stumbled on your page and I was so glad to see the title of it. Thank you so much for channeling your own struggle into insights so others can benefit from it as I am benefitting from it right now.

    When I read the part about breathing deeply and intently that got me thinking that something that simple can be so helpful and I immediately started doing it myself. It is very easy to forget or underestimate. 

    I really appreciated the fact that you mentioned to not get stressed out and read the whole post as once.

    The other tips that stood out to me were the “brain dumps” as I practice meditation everyday as well and the “so what?” because it is easy to implement and very effective. I yelled an expletive with it as soon as I saw it lol

    —Francesco

    • Hi Francesco,

      I am thrilled and delighted to hear that my post is helping you. That makes my day, getting comments like that. Thanks. πŸ™‚

      I find it interesting and empowering that a lot of stress management techniques are actually usually easy enough to try out and see do they work for you. Breathing deeply is a good one.

      Once I started writing the post it just got bigger and bigger. I suggest that the article be bookmarked, because there is no way that you would read the whole thing in one go and immediately go out and start implementing all of the techniques that resonate with you.

      Actually yelling an expletive or more is also a good technique, assuming of course, that no one hears you. πŸ™‚

      Peace,
      David

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