Hi, I’m David. I help people manage stress based on my experience of managing stress.
Hello there and welcome to my Lets Talk Managing Stress website.
Learning how to manage stress has been something that I needed to do over the past while. I have purchased numerous tapes, videos, books and courses in the Managing Stress world, both in the online world and in the offline world to try to improve my stress management skill sets as well as my overall approach to life.
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Now, I am not going to claim that I know everything about stress. I do not. However I do know a lot about how stress affects me and how I manage it. I hope that some of the stress management techniques that I found practical, good and useful will also help you.
The one thing that all of these stress management products have in common is that they promise a lot. That is that your stress levels will disappear if you just follow their instructions. Well, speaking from my personal experience, I found that is not always true in my experience.
Maybe I am looking for too much. You see, I experience panic attacks and as a consequence of that, I fear that I will get another while driving on a motorway with no place to go should I get one. I had a horrible panic attack whilst driving on a motorway a while back. No physical damage was done. However I naturally fear another. As you know, not all motorways have a place where you can quickly pull over and stop. No book or course I have done so far, tells me how to manage that.
Of course, if you have a way that I could manage that, I would love to hear it. Let me know in the comments area below. Many thanks in advance for your help on this. 🙂
I experience panic attacks and to say in a course or a book or whatever that all you need to do is to “breathe deeply and slowly for a few minutes” and panic attacks will be gone I think is misleading people. There are a lot of opinions about how to manage panic attacks. At this stage, I have a plan that I follow when I get one and that approach works for me.
There are many different techniques about how to manage stress and the like. In my experience and in my opinion at this stage, it is a multi layered type of approach that needs to be followed on a regular basis, some of these techniques should ideally be done on a daily basis. Things like going for regular walks, eating well, getting enough quality sleep, doing meditation and getting enough water all help in their various ways.
Also applying some highly effective thinking on things can also help. When something “not great” happens, the human mind can end up doing a lot of “bad thinking” about the situation and make the situation way worst by continuously thinking about the “not great” situation.
I am aware of two different things that you can do in this situation which may help you:
1. Ask yourself “Will this be important in 5 years time?” If the answer is No, then simply say silently to yourself “Not important, moving on”.
2. You think of something “not great”, and you know that dwelling on it is “bad” for you, immediately after the thought appears, say to yourself as strongly as you can, “So what”.
Of course, these 2 approaches may help in a lot of case, however not all cases. I have tried them with my driving on motorways fear and to date, they have not worked for me. Those 2 approaches work great for me with other life experiences.
I am sure that there are many more things that a person can do, however as the two approaches mentioned above work for me some of the time, they may also work for you. 🙂
I have read books written by people in different lines of work including medical doctors and yes, they contain good advice and lots of interesting information. In a lot of cases, they contain a lot of practical information which can also help. By adapting wholeheartedly the provided information, it can help a lot in a lot of cases. Just knowing about the different approaches and not practicing them on a regular enough basis is not enough. Just my opinion. 🙂
I have panic attacks from time to time. At this stage, when I get one, I have a plan in place that I follow, I follow that and a while later I am in a position to move on and forget about it. This is something if you are a person who experiences panic attacks can do. This is one of those things that is actually easier to say than to do in the real world. However, it is possible, because that is what I do now and it helps a lot.
Of course, what I do and what you do may be quite different. Whatever works for you is what is important to you. I built up my plan over trial and error. Just because it works for me, does not immediately mean that it would work for you.
It may help you to know stress management techniques that I found useful, so that you can use them as a starting point for your list of stress management techniques.
What is even better is that you put stress management techniques in place and practice them on a regular basis.
Now I Want to Give Back
Now I want to give back so that you can benefit from my stress management journey.
Over a period of time I have learned quite a bit about stress management from the layman’s point of view. For instance, learning and practicing meditation on a daily basis can help. Doing meditation on a daily basis also has a number of other health related benefits, which is also good.
However, there are a number of different meditation techniques out there and different people say “My one is the best” (By the way, no way am I saying that my way is the best), so how can you narrow it down to the few that work for you… and I want to offer you some opinions about these as well as provide you with information on where to learn about some of these different techniques yourself, so that you decide for yourself which ones work best for you based on your real life experiences.
I experienced from stress for a while, and tried for a long time to remove the stress from my life by doing all those things people say you should do. You know, sleep better, eat better, go for 30-60 minute walks every day, de-stress and loads of other things. That did not really work for me until the main stressor was removed completely from my life. Once that was removed, then things started to improve.
How to Manage Stress Levels?
So how do you get to manage your stress levels in different ways that may be better. Well, I literally spent a lot of time reading different books, doing different courses, listening to different audio recordings, looking at videos and I have learned different things from these resources that have helped me to manage my stress levels. As well as doing these things, I have spent time following their suggestions and recommendations into my life.
Some approaches worked for me, whereas others didn’t. It could be that the ones that did not, just were not suitable for me and may work for you. However, I can not recommend the ones that did not work for me.
How to Manage Stress Better?
People are beginning to realize that stress has to be managed better.
Too much bad stress can affect your health. Stress needs to be managed well. There are numerous ways that people manage stress, and being aware of some of these ways can help you too, especially if you can integrate them into your daily life.
For instance, one technique is that if something annoys you, asking yourself silently the question “Will this be important in 5 years time?”. A lot of the times the answer will be No, therefore you say to yourself “Not important, moving on” and simply move on. You be surprised how effective that this one is.
And, you also see, how simple and obvious it is, once you realize that it can be used as a stress management technique.
Much of the content that I am going to be discussing here is going to be around simple practical techniques that can be used to help with stress management and I hope, will help you to reduce your stress levels. Some content will be reviews of products out there, that I hope you will also look at and buy to help you with your stress management.
For a number of effective strategies to manage stress, click here to read my Detailed Article Detailing A Number Of Effective Strategies To Manage Stress.
So have a good look around and if you ever have anything that you want to share about your stress management journey, I would like to hear about it. Just simply comment below. Or if you prefer, you can contact me via my Contact Me page.
To you managing stress and reducing stress in your life,
Founder and Owner of Lets Talk Managing Stress